Thursday, August 13, 2009

Conventional Wisdom Says I Should Be Happy...

...but I'm sad. Google the word "mother-in-law" and you'll find these website gems:

"Mother-In-Law Stories and Mother-In-Law Jokes,"
"Mother-in-Law HELL » Mother-in-Law Advice and Mother-in-Law Stories,"
"Dealing with Mother-in-Law Conflicts -," and
"I Hate My Mother In Law | An Anonymous Group with Personal Stories ...."
Lovely, isn't it?

Most people assume that I would be happy that my mother-in-law and father-in-law left today to go to Kenya for a year to teach at a boarding school for missionary kids and other American students in Africa. (I think they also have African students.) And while I'm happy for them that they have this incredible opportunity, I'm sad for myself, my husband, and our children. We have been blessed to live near them from 1996-2002, and now again from 2007-the present. My mother-in-law is one of my best friends, and I talk to her on the phone nearly every day. My children love going to "Mimi and Papa's" house, and are a teeny bit spoiled by their grandmother (not in a bad way at all---just a little bit of indulgence now and then.)
While we lived in North Carolina from 2002-2006 they frequently came for visits, even surprising the kids a couple of times, and Eric and me once! My heart is too heavy right now to write much more....this is going to be a weird year not having them around....


Tomara said...

What a blessing you have!! I (unfortunately) would probably have to classify my mil relationship with "those" people. I pray that the year (for you) will go quickly and you'll have many, many opportunities to chat with her. Maybe a visit?

Renata said...

I am also blessed by my in-laws. Will there be Skype?

Alice C. said...

We'll have Skype, but they will only have dial-up, which means we'll probably only use the voice/audio capability and not the camera/visual. We're so excited for them!

Anonymous said...

I understand completely! I have been so blessed to have my in-laws. My husband jokes that his mom likes me better than him. She and I have taken a bunch of road trips together and when I need a break from house and school, we usually pile into the car and go somewhere.
Please pass on our prayers for them, as they do this. It is ok to be sad and miss them.
Love you!

Karen said...

It is so refreshing to hear that other women love their in-laws as much as I love mine. I think I have the best in-laws in the world, as they have taken each one of us "out-laws" (as dad affectionately calls us)as one of their own children.
I know that no matter what I can call on my mother-in-law at any time and she will be on her "knees" in prayer for us.
One year will pass very quickly!! Will be in prayer for them and you.